successful marriage

Successful Christian Marriage
Before you go to marriage, ask yourself these questions. Why do I want to get married? What do I expect from marriage? , and Haw do I plan to achieve that?
Most people answer very quickly and positively, that they want to get married to each other, because they are in love and want to share their lives together. But quite a few of them stutter, groan and moan, and look surprised. Then they confess that they want to do it because of loneliness, economic reasons, peer or family pressure, or pregnancy.
I am afraid that some people just jump in to marriage like that man who want to the swimming pool, climbed the diving tower and jumped in when he did not com up, the life guard jumped in after him and pulled him up, when asked what had happened, and if he could swim, the man replied: “No!” “why did you jump in to the pool if you can not swim?” asked the life guard. To this he replied: “became most people were doing it!” and because it looked so simple” I am afraid that many people approach marriage that way. They jump in to it because their friends are doing it, and because it looks so easy. Some are even pushed in to in to unhappy relationships in order to escape economic pressures, loneliness as home frictions. But no body should enter marriage under any other condition except when they are ready, and want to marry the person they love. I don’t believe that people learn to love somebody after they are forced in to marriage. Nor do I believe in forced marriages for whatever reason. These marriages break up much sooner than any other unions. Roberta flack says: “Getting married is easy staying married is more difficult. Staying happily married for a life time should among the fine art.” (The reader’s digest, August, 1982).
Most marriage counselors agree that common interest’s religion age nationality, culture, sex. And children are the things which strengthen marriages. Mirage is the most difficult of all human relationship because it involves two persons who come from different background and who have different opinions, ideas, ideals, interests and outlooks. It takes time, patience, understanding and love to overcome these differences and to get properly adjusted. St.st Augustine said that when God created the women He did not take here from man’s head that she should rule over him. But neither did he take all over her. God took the women from man’s side that side by side they should walk work and as equal partners, friends and helpers.(SEE Genesis 2:21-22).
In my humble opinion the best recipe for a successful marriage is still found in God’s Holy world please read carefully 1 Corinthians 13 and Ephesians 5: 21-33, and see for yourself. Notice that, in Ephesians 5:21 the Apostle Paul speaks about mutual submission to each other and to God. Then in verse 22 he asks wives to be submission to their husbands. But in verse 25 he tells all husbands to love their wives even as they love themselves. This is the secret, friends, of how to achieve a successful marriage. A submission wife is quite easy to love and most wives have no problem being submissive to a loving, caring, gentle and understanding husband. Christian marriage is life- long commitment. Today many marry for better or worse, but not for too long, because over 40% of marriage ends in divorce. If you want support me please, contact me: hhpkefelegn@gmail.com or Kefelegn Sahle, P.O box 260, Ziway- Ethiopia. URL: http://hhpkefelegn.blogspot.com